Thursday, April 18, 2019

Flight Attendant Dating 101

Can I ask you a non-hair related question?" She asked.
For those of you who don't know, while I blog about life as a flight attendant Mom here. On my Instagram, I blog about my curly hair. (Go check it out)
Anyway, I was doing a "Live" Q&A the other day when someone asked that.
"Sure, I said."
"So, what's your dating situation... you're so funny and cute, I've been dying to ask you."
I took a sip of my wine, pretty sure my face turned the color of red I was drinking. I skirted around the question, completely caught off guard. I knew she meant well, but I was embarrassed.
"I dated someone a little bit ago, but I'm busy... when I"m home I'm Mom, and when I'm at work, well I'm gone." I laughed and joked that if they knew anyone or had a single brother, they could send them my way. Even though life is busy, I would love to meet someone. You make time for the people who are important to you right?
It got me thinking about my dating life since I've been a flight attendant.
I had a jealous boyfriend who wasn't comfortable with me traveling, I dated the pilot, for years. I've gone out on dates in my hometown. And of course, there have been offers to be taken out to dinner and a handful of numbers from passengers on the plane. It makes sense that the second most popular way people meet their significant other is through work. So when I met the last guy, I really didn't even second guess it.
I met him on a flight from San Francisco to Oklahoma City. He was so handsome, I was completely smitten. And I wanted to take a chance. So, I gave him my number. We hit it off, things were easy between us. We talked all the time and made plans right away. Despite living in different states, we made the effort and saw each other quite a bit over the next few months. I thought I had gotten to know him pretty well and truth be told I was really excited about him. Anyway, I remember the last date we went on... I landed in his home town late Sunday night, we had planned a lunch date the next day. I got up, got ready and he picked me up. We sat across from each other at lunch, we talked and we laughed as usual,  but something he said...made me realize what had probably been right in front of me the whole time. He thought he was my, "Oklahoma City."
Just the guy I called when I was in his town. And my heart sank. I walked away feeling so disappointed, in myself. That it took me so long see it.
See, there is a common misconception, that all flight attendants and pilots have "Hoes in different area codes" to be blunt. And while that may be true for some, I assure you, that it's not true for all of us. I don't have guys all over the US, waiting for a phone call that I've landed. Honestly, the last thing I want to do after a 12 hour duty day, is to try and look cute for anyone... Don't get me wrong, if I met someone and I thought there was a connection like I did with ole OKC, I would give it a shot. Being a flight attendant does have its traveling perks and long distance relationships really aren't a big deal especially when I can be in a certain city every week.
But, if you think you're going to date a flight attendant, be her (insert city code here) and get free passes to travel... It's called standby buddy, Google it. And I personally don't just give those out to anyone.
Oh, and if you ever get to meet my kids you can consider yourself the luckiest man in the world!
Just a friendly PSA from that single flight attendant mom xoxo
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